Adam Fitzgerald (he/him/they)

I am a queer, sex-positive, non-monogamous person born in the United States and currently living in southern Spain. After more than two decades working in theatre as a director, I decided it was time to take that experience - helping performers connect to their physical and emotional truths - and focus those skills on another passion of mine: sex and intimacy.

My work is inspired by the belief that we have absorbed so much shame and guilt when it comes to sex and pleasure but, with gentle work on the self, guided by curiosity and compassion, some of that can be unlearned. We are not taught to embrace our sexuality and our sensuality. We are not encouraged to talk openly about desires and fantasies. And a lot of us do not have somewhere to turn to learn and grow when it comes to sex and intimacy.

In the coaching process, we begin to relearn and reclaim our bodies and build an authentic relationship to sex and pleasure. Kindness, honesty, sex positivity, somatic (full body) awareness, a gentle approach, and the diminishment of shame are the fundamental principles driving my work.

In my first book, Recovering From Recovery, I explore how opening my mind about my sexuality and living out my erotic inclinations unblocked many other things in my life. Releasing the shame around those sexual desires gave me clarity regarding my relationship to alcohol and to my past. I believe very strongly that we can unlearn those shame-based habits and defense mechanisms that block us not only from sexual pleasure, but from living the whole of our lives more authentically.

We need to ask ourselves what we are hiding from, but I believe we also need learn to tell the truth about what we desire. De-shaming and embracing our erotic secrets can help to free us not only in the bedroom, but can also teach us to be more open and more honest in every part of our lives and in every relationship. I do this work because I want to help people uncover, express, and live those intimate and erotic truths.

Certification

Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coaching Certification, The Embody Lab

(Faculty: Kai Cheng Thom, Onika Henry, Dr. Scott Lyons, Cyndi Darnell, Dr. Laura Berman, Vanessa Bennett, Dr. Emily Morse, Amy Chan, Dené Logan, Barbara Carrellas, Katherine Woodward Thomas)

Association

The Association of Somatic and Integrative Sexologists, Professional Member

Additional Training and Coursework

Introduction to Creating Conscious Love, The Embody Lab (Sheleana Aiyana)

Erotic Massage for Empowerment, Intimacy and Ecstasy, The Intimacy Institute (Caffyn Jesse)

Somatic Intimacy, The Embody Lab (Buster Rådvik, Brian Yang, Dr. Alayne Mikahere-Hall, Eurphrasia “Efu” Nyaki)

Body Liberation, The Embody Lab (Dr. Stella Resnick, Anusha Wijeyakumar, Sam Taitel)

Trauma Healing, The Embody Lab (Ally Bogard, Dr. Peter Levine, Dr. Sará King, Dr. Scott Lyons, Sherri Mitchell, Saj Razvi)